Great article!

 

Dealing With Grief: Five Things NOT to Say and Five Things to Say In a Trauma Involving Children

2012 Gifts From Gavin!

We decided to take a larger portion of donations to buy a Leapster Explorer for the Child Life Specialist to lend out on the children's floor. That will be something they can use over and over for years to come! :) So we ended with 130 toys...plus a Leapster Explorer and two games...equals $300 worth of toys!! Going to take them Cardon's Childers Hospital soon! :-)

 20 friends and family members joined us in our Gifts From Gavin Toy Drive this year! 60 toys (!!) and $195 were donated by them over the course of last week. We'll add our family's donation of $100 to order almost $300 worth of MORE TOYS!!! After they arrive, we'll be taking them all down to the hospital around the first week of November.

We not only met, but FAR exceeded our goal for this year!!! I'm super excited to see how many more toys $300 will purchase. (last year it was 120 total!!! what?! you guys are awesome!! that's DOUBLE the amount of toys!!)

Thanks so much for joining us...it was a super fun week seeing and talking to you all, and our kids loved envisioning the fun the hospital kids will have with these awesome toys!!!

{the donated toys from friends & family!}

{the total toys + toys purchased w/ donations + Leapster & games!!}

Happy 5th Birthday, Gavin!

1st donation!

Just received our first box of toys in the mail for Gavin's Toy Drive! It is the best feeling ever opening presents that you are going to give away. Its like Christmas, but a million times better, at our house this week! Getting a little teary-eyed...

And the online donations have started, too! I'm going to have to start planning our toy order asap!!! Only 1 more week! Thank you to everyone who's donated so far! We appreciate it so much...the kids are going to be so excited to take these toys down to the hospital! 

 

4th Annual Gifts From Gavin Toy Drive!

Our family is excited to kick off our yearly tradition in honoring Gavin, and his gift of life to us, in celebrating his birthday by collecting new toys to donate to Cardon's Children's Hospital, where our sweet little Gavin spent so much of his short life. So many people there became like family to us, and in a way, it became a second home to us, too. Those walls hold a lot of sacred memories of moments that we spent together as a family with Gavin, and we'll always feel it in our hearts when we go back to visit.

 Having spent so much time there, we realized how HUGE of a difference it can make to these babies and children to have just one little moment of normalcy and happiness in their day. The hospital is a scary, scary place for children (well, for their parents, too!), but especially for younger children who don't understand WHY their mommies and daddies are keeping them in this unfamiliar place, where strangers poke and prod at them, and worse stick them with needles and tubes and hurt them, over and over, every single day. They don't understand why they can't go outside, or leave this strange room, or in most cases, even their crib or bed. There is nothing in there to brighten their day, until they get to go to the toy closet (or have it brought to hem!) and they get to pick out a new toy!!! Seriously, its the best thing ever to see the look on their face when they see all those shiny, fun possibilities.

Its not something you can really convince anyone else of, until they actually live through it. But a silly $2-3 toy can bring your child, and you, hope that seemed to not exist only a few minutes before. Because when you watch your child being held down and being hurt as they scream and cry and reach out for you, and their face is puffy and red with tears streaking down their face and they look at you with betrayal in their eyes...you want to just die. But all it takes to wipe that away, is to bring them to the toy closet, and suddenly, all is forgotten, and their world evens out, stops spinning, and becomes 'normal' even for just a little while. And seeing them smile, after all the pain and horror, is priceless.

A mother in my ward approached me recently and, with tears in her eyes, relayed her experience the month before in the hospital with her daughter. They had been there for an extended time, and I'm sure, felt that horror and shock that offends all of your senses and makes you feel like you're in a war zone. And then, they took her daughter to the toy closet, and she just....got it. She understood it how much it meant. And that meant SO MUCH to me! It doesn't make me happy that they had to experience it first hand, but I'm glad that the toys were there. That we had some small part in making their hospital stay a little less traumatic and awful.

So, it brings us so much joy and peace to fill up our vehicle with piles and boxes of those shiny possibilities, those little rays of hope, those smiles that are seldom earned...and present them to the place, and the people, who made such a huge impact on our lives. So in honor of Gavin, and his gift of life to us, we hold a toy drive every year on his birthday. We take the money that we would have spent on a birthday party and toys for Gavin, and we use them to buy toys to donate to the children at the hospital. And we invite you to join us in brightening these children's hospital days, by donating a new toy, too!** Last year we donated 120 toys...I'd love to make that 150 (or even 200?!) this year!

HOW TO JOIN:

• You can simply drop one off a new toy at our home anytime on Gavin's birthday, Saturday, October 6th. (or Friday or Sunday...we won't turn you away!) :) If you don't have time to buy a toy, you're welcome to give a monetary donation and we'll use all the proceeds to buy toys from the Mattel Charity Toy Catalog, that we are so happy to be involved with! (the toys are bundled and sold at wholesale price, so it stretches our donation dollars much, much further than they ever did in the past!)
• Or, if you're out of town, you can order a toy online and have it shipped to our address (I recommend Amazon so you can get their free shipping, if possible!). Just send me an e-mail and let me know to watch out for it.
• You can also make a monetary donation online through our paypal account to my e-mail address, bethany.at.bethandre.com. Just write "Gifts From Gavin" in the info box. Again, all proceeds will be used to buy toys from the Mattel Charity Catalog.

In the words of my Uncle Robert...Thank You, Thank You, Thank You! Thank you so much for helping us to honor and remember Gavin! It means so much to us, and makes such a huge difference in others' lives! :)

**I know there's not a lot of room in everyone's budget for extras...so please don't think a toy has to be BIG or PRICEY to make a child HAPPY!! Sometimes the smallest, simplest toys are the most FUN!! Even a 35 cent matchbox car is HEAVEN to a 3 year old who's been stuck in bed all day long. And $1 adds up fast when its joined with all the rest. We are equal opportunity acceptors of toys and donations! ;) The last thing I want to do is burden anyone or have them feel bad!

Mother & Child Are Linked At The Cellular Level

This made me cry a bit today...so amazing.

"The cells of that child stay with her, resonating in ways that mothers have known intuitively throughout time."

http://lauragraceweldon.com/2012/06/12/mother-child-are-linked-at-the-cellular-level/

They Lay Down Beside Her and Wept

I will always treasure those who were willing to 'lay down beside me' and weep.

http://bycommonconsent.com/2012/07/01/they-lay-down-beside-her-and-wept/

Study suggests breakthrough in organ transplants

Very cool...though I always wonder 'what if' when I see how much organ donation is advancing.

 

Study suggests breakthrough in organ transplants

www.latimes.com